You know the saying - everyone knows the darn saying, but does everyone know what the hell it is suppose to mean? Maybe you have your own flavor of what it means, but it goes something like, you want more than you can handle, or to have two things that just cannot work together. You pretty much need to choice one of them.
It's a stupid saying, yes it is. I didn't realize just how stupid until Jan pointed it out last week. We were talking about me and my never ending cycle of getting wrapped up in men that are not available. And I'm not looking for any psycho-analyzing at this point, I know why I do it and I'm just not ready to do anything about it yet. So the saying came up..." I think he wants to have his cake and eat it too" to which Jan pondered for a moment and say, "Why can't people just eat their freakin cake and be happy with it?" I didn't know what to say... She's right. Isn't that the best part of having a beautiful cake, enjoying it? I mean, when it's gone, you might miss looking at it, but you are full, and generally pretty pumped on sugar.
We probably spent another hour talking about how good it is to just eat the darn cake, that when we were done, I had to go to Baker's Square just to get a sweet fix. The gist of it was that, yes it is nice to have something beautiful to look at and to keep for yourself, something that seem seperate from the rest of your world, but darn near everything we experience in life is better when we can truly enjoy every part of it and share it with others. Minus flossing your teeth of course, nobody wants to see the popcorn that has been stuck behind your back tooth for a week now.
All the same, I would like to have a big ole wedding cake style, 3 tier cake baked and decorated, and just have a big party with absolutely no specific reason, but just share it with all my friends and loved one just because. Best part of it would be, I know I would get those questions, what's the occassion, or what's that all about. Symbolic maybe - that I'm happy just eating my freakin cake, and I'm not worried that there isn't going to be anything left when I'm done with it to continue to look forward to or feel good about. Yes it's probably true, you can't have it both ways, but really, does anyone who is honest with themselves really want it more than one way?
Ok, I'm hungry now, time to make a chocolate cake. Did you read the one about my feelings on chocolate, chocolate cake?
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Why in the hell would you want to "have your cake"? For sure you want to eat it - that is why you make it and decorate it - you make it look beautiful so it will be appealing and people will want to EAT IT! That expresion has always baffled me... Once again, we end up on the same page!
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