Pros and Cons

My life can be summed up by a series of lists, consisting of Pros and Cons. I know this is true. How you ask me? Because I am starting to push this concept onto my off-spring. It's sorta like this, you want your kids to play violin because YOU always wished you had done it. Or if you did do it, you wish you HAD been better it then, and you would have made something of yourself as an adult. I'm sure there is a specific term for this sort of psychological projection, I don't recall the specifics of Ann Freud's work but it's there someplace.

Anywho - point is, that is my means of functioning. Autumn wants a Myspace. She had (or maybe still has) a Myspace account. I blocked it on our router so they couldn't get to it. I didn't like that she didn't want me to know what was going on. The hell with that - she's not going to do it then. So, she keeps asking, and I just keep saying no. No, no, no, no. Then, last week, I decided I needed to find another way to say no so I told her, "Ok, you can have one if you can support the argument why I will not have to worry about it and what value it will add to your life. Make me a list of Pros and Cons, we can review it, and I will make my decision. You should know Autumn, if I don't feel you have strong points to why it will add value and how you will make me feel comfortable I have no concerns, you are dead in the water." She agreed.

She made her list here it is:
Pros
1. I want one because I can communicate better with my friends out of school
2. There is fun stuff to do like email and put up pictures
3. I can find new bands to listen to
4. I can plan stuff with friends
5. I can find old friends and look at peoples profiles
Cons
1. Because someone could hurt me or get personal info
2. It seems like hiding stuff from you
3. You might think I will do bad things or post bad pictures or something
4. People could use other peoples information and pretend to be my friend
5. Friends of min you don’t like could ask to do stuff without you knowing
What I will do to make Mom happy
1. set my name to private
2. Only be friends on myspace with people I know
3. Put good pictures on
4. Let you check my myspace
5. Listen to you if you ask me question about my myspace

Then she had an area for Notes and feedback.

Not bad I thought.. not bad at all. I mean, she is new to this, and she had to sit down and writ it up. I'm not going to tell you I said yes to her, that would be a lie. I still said no, but I also told her she could always re-submit after fine-tuning it a bit. She started working on that tonight...

I don't know what I hope her to get out of the whole darn thing. I'm talking about life now, not just the Myspace argument. I suppose I'm hoping she thinks before she does stuff.

For example, i remember a night out about a year ago ... it seemed like a good idea to have that fourth GreyGoose martini even though I hadn't eaten anything in about 12 hours. Then when I woke up around 7am the next morning not knowing where I was I thought....hmmm maybe I should have about that a little more. You can make up whatever details you want regarding the stuff I'm leaving out. Point is, I could have used a list prior to the 4th drink.

What's next on my list of things to do - let me look at my list....
I've still never had a Whitecastle... I think I should try a slider next week while I'm off. That and find some new options.
Ah well, what's a girl to do?